Do We Need Couples Counseling? Questions To Ask

Every relationship goes through challenging seasons. Maybe something external is at play, like a job loss or illness. Or maybe you’ve had something happen between the two of you that you’re having trouble sorting out.

Whatever the case may be, you might have found yourself wondering about couples therapy.

If you’re thinking about finding San Fernando Valley couples counseling, that in and of itself is already a strong indicator you would benefit from this kind of care. Still, we can help you explore this opportunity a little further by teeing up some questions to ask yourself and your partner.

Some questions to ask

To help you decide if seeking out San Fernando Valley couples counseling is right for you and your partner, our team compiled this list. It reflects a lot of the most common issues we see from couples who come in to work on their relationship.

Ask yourself — and, if they’re willing, your partner:

1. Do we have the same argument(s) over and over?
2. Does our communication feel effective?
3. Are we less emotionally vulnerable with one another than we used to be?
4. Are we less physically intimate than before?
5. Do I feel heard when I talk to you? Do you feel heard when you talk to me?
6. (If you live together) Does our home feel like a safe space?
7. Do we feel like we’re on the same team — or more like opponents?
8. Are we having trouble agreeing on a major life decision?
9. Do I trust you? Do you trust me?
10. Do we want to build a healthier relationship?

Then, here’s an answer key. If you give the below answer to several of the questions, it’s a sign couples therapy could probably benefit your relationship:

1. Yes
2. No
3. Yes
4. Yes
5. No/No
6. No
7. Opponents
8. Yes
9. No/No
10. Yes

That last answer is an important one. Couples counseling works best when both people are willing to put in work to support their shared bond. That said, even if your partner isn’t ready to start therapy, you can start couples counseling alone. Your therapist helps you develop tools and more emotional awareness that you can bring home.

Getting started with San Fernando Valley couples counseling

If those questions made you think that it’s time to explore this kind of therapy, we can help you get started with San Fernando Valley couples counseling.

Reach out to us, and our intake coordinator asks you some questions about what you want to get out of therapy. This allows us to pair you with a couples therapist who we think will be a good fit for your specific situation.

Whether you come to counseling with your partner or on your own, your therapist has a wide range of resources they can use to help you build a healthier relationship. They might work with you on exercises that help you understand your partner’s perspective, or they might teach you tools to help you communicate more effectively. In short, you get personalized support for this challenging season in your relationship.

We’re here to make it easy to get started with San Fernando Valley couples counseling. Contact us today.